Reignite Your

Strengthen Your Bond, Reignite Your Love: Relax and Rediscover Each Other at a 6-day Hold Me Tight® Couples Retreat in Costa Rica

Step into a new chapter of your relationship

One filled with deeper connection and rekindled passion. Unwind and reconnect with your partner amid the lush beauty of Costa Rica, a perfect setting for rediscovery and love.

Do You Feel Isolated in Your Relationship?

When the spark of acceptance seems to be absent, even the smallest interaction can feel like navigating a minefield.

Fading emotional connection between you and your partner?

An imbalanced intimate relationship can cast a long shadow over your daily interactions. Maybe frustration and anxiety about the disconnection between you has become your constant companion.

Reconciling your differences is met with resistance?

You want to succeed, you both keep trying, yet conversations end up being arguments.

Words that should bridge the gap seem to widen it as you struggle to articulate your feelings and desires.

  • Maybe you have tried to reach out to your partner only to feel dismissed, neglected, or even more alone.
  • They might interpret your attempts to reconnect as nagging, melodrama, or a demand for constant attention.
  • Your partner may be unavailable, withdrawn, or absent.
  • This misunderstanding further deepens the disconnection between you, making it a seemingly unending cycle.

The Truth is…all couples fight

Both of you feel misunderstood and crave acceptance

If only your partner could just appreciate and value you for who you are, you could relax and be yourself again.

“For all of us, the person we love most in the world, the one who can send us soaring joyfully into space, is also the person who can send us crashing back to earth. All it takes is a slight turning away of the head or a flip, careless remark

Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight: Your Guide to the Most Successful Approach to Building Loving Relationships

Fortunately, the Hold Me Tight® Couples 6-Day (5-night) Retreat can provide a respite from the conflict and loneliness that has permeated your relationship and help restore love, connection, and trust.

Hold Me Tight® is a registered trademark to Dr. Sue Johnson, founder and originator of Emotionally Focused Therapy.

Many Couples Face Challenges in Their Relationships

All couples face periods of conflict and disconnection

It’s not uncommon for partners to feel stuck, unable to communicate effectively or resolve conflicts, sometimes even for years. These negative patterns can strain the relationship to its breaking point.

We all want to succeed in our relationships

While it’s true that many marriages and committed partnerships end in separation or divorce, none of us start off wanting that to be the outcome. In modern times, we often rely on our partners for our emotional well-being, and we place high expectations on finding happiness in our relationships. When we struggle, the fear of judgment or failure often holds us back from seeking help.

Research reveals that Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, developed by Dr. Sue Johnson, can significantly improve distressed relationships.

The Hold Me Tight® 6-day Couples Retreat Will Rekindle Your Connection

The Hold Me Tight® 6-day (5-nights) Couples Retreat at the Costa Rica Imiloa Institute, offers a unique and intensive healing experience designed to move couples out of disconnection and into a place of love, understanding, and hope. It is also a time to celebrate your relationship and take time for play, joy, and intimacy.

Hold Me Tight® is a registered trademark to Dr. Sue Johnson, founder and originator of Emotionally Focused Therapy.

At Our Imiloa Couples Retreat, you will….

  • Move out of negative cycles that keep you feeling stuck and alone
  • Make sense of your own as well as your partner’s emotions
  • Forgive injuries that keep you from really opening up with your partner
  • Communicate your emotional needs for connection were there has been betrayal)

Experience this ground-breaking work to renew trust and intimacy within your relationship and deepen your emotional connection with one another to flourish.

Dalia and Owen will guide you through a transformative journey.

Hold Me Tight (HMT) Couples Retreat

We begin with assessing your relationship

During the retreat, we will help you Identify key points of conflict and disconnect and envision a desired relationship for both of you.

Our retreat employs a range of therapy modalities

This includes Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the EVRYMAN and MELD Methods, Family Systems, sexual and intimacy issues, somatic therapies, and the science behind trauma therapies, such as Polyvagal Theory.

You will delve deeper into your relational issues

In the Seven Conversations, we identify key points of conflict and envision a harmonious relationship for both of you. This is not group therapy; you will work with us as a couple. Sharing in the group is optional.

At the end of your retreat, you will have more than new insights into yourself and your partner

You will learn new ways to express your needs and respond to your partner’s needs, healing the emotional wounds in your relationship and allowing vulnerability to lead the way.

You will be able to:

  • Establish a secure and intimate bond with one another
  • Restore commitment and hope
  • Decrease isolation, distance, and loneliness
  • Learn to manage intense and negative emotion
  • Rebuild safety and trust

Hear From Past Participants

This workshop allowed my partner and I to open up more directly and deepen our connection. We were able to witness each other in ways that we didn’t realize were needed or possible. Highly recommend.
Fantastic Experience. Powerful workshop that transformed the way we approach our relationship. Gave us many tools to deepen our relationship. Look forward to applying them to our relationship.
I loved the hands-on space and mix of experience, structure, support. The 1-1 care of both of you really helped open us up. We went deep in areas we didn’t even expect. I’d consider making this 1-2 hours longer each day. One more activity – the walk was huge and opened up space for play. This training breathed new life into our relationship in the best way.”
I want all my friends, family to attend the next available workshop – Dalia and Owen are the best at presenting, getting couples to the place of being able to understand what is really behind all the pain…bringing relationships back to a place of feeling safe and not avoiding the difficult – loving that you get to share life with your partner.”.
To be honest, I was very skeptical about the workshop. My partner kept suggesting and insisting we try it, but I was holding back. ‘This was not for me’ is what I kept thinking.
But, Oh, was I wrong.
The workshop blew me out of my comfort zone, but it allowed me to feel hopeful and curious again…
I felt safe to open to what is holding me back, and to feel the connection that was possible…
Owen and Dalia created a setting where we as couples felt safe and encouraged to open up to our partners in new and deeper ways that I did not think could happen at a retreat with other couples. It was very real and very much a relationship change that was much needed.”

Your 6-day Journey of Transformation

We have designed the retreat days to include teaching sessions, private breakout sessions, leisure activities, local excursions.

Just like other Hold Me Tight® experiences we have led over the past 10 years – all the couple’s personal work – is done privately as a couple with our guidance.

Choose your luxury sanctuary. We’ve seen them all — each one is uniquely beautiful. (Prices are for couples)


Jogolo VIP

Perched on the edge of the cliff, at the furthest end of the property, sits a 170 year old home from the Java Islands named Jogolo.

$8500 / 5 Nights


Potoo House

This two-floor imported home from Bali will have you wishing you’d never leave. Complete with a King Bed and a twin in the corner of the 180 year old home.

$8500 / 5 Nights


Sky Forest

Our three Sky Forest Suites are in close proximity to “Heart” and the common space features stunning views of the Pacific.

$7500 / 5 Nights (Mountains)
$7500 / 5 Nights (Sea)
$7500 / 5 Nights (Nature)


Bali Suites

Our 2 Bali Suites are elegantly situated at the top of the mountain in the 200-year-old Bali Village

$7500 / 5 Night



Our 6 Jungle Bungalows are in close proximity to our common area, and right on the pathway to our own private waterfall.

$6500 / 5 Night


Geodesic Domes

Inspired by sacred geometry, our 6 Geodesic River Domes, sits in the rainforest along the edge of our private river.

$6300 / 5 Night

Immerse Yourself in the Luxury of Costa Rica

Imola offers many beautiful possible accommodations. Choose one that will nourish and renew you. We’ve seen them all — everyone is lovely. 

Your 6-day Journey of Transformation

Luxury Accommodations

Immerse yourself in the tranquility of the tropical jungle, complemented by the comfort of fine linens and elegant décor. Select from a variety of unique living spaces: our meticulously handcrafted Bali homes and suites, the breezy open-air Jungle Bungalows, or the distinctive Geodesic river domes. Each offers a seamless blend of natural beauty and luxurious comfort.

Gourmet Meals

Indulge in six days of delectable plant-based gourmet meals, meticulously prepared with care and affection by the Imiloa culinary team. Enhance your experience at our wellness bar, which offers a variety of specialty coffee drinks, smoothies, and health-boosting elixirs.

Should you have any dietary restrictions or allergies, rest assured that our dedicated culinary team will work closely with you. This ensures that every meal not only meets your specific needs but is also a safe and delightful experience tailored just for you.

Therapeutic Sessions

Imiloa provides a diverse range of therapeutic services, from Ayurvedic massages and ancient shamanic practices delivered by their talented masseuses hailing from the Boruca indigenous tribe of Costa Rica, to more conventional offerings such as Swedish, relaxation, or Thai yoga massages and invigorating body wraps. Optional services.

Exotic Excursions

We journey to the breathtaking landscapes of Costa Rica to immerse ourselves in its unparalleled natural beauty. Our goal is for you to revel in this paradise as much as we do, which is why we offer a range of optional experiences designed for personal rejuvenation.

And that is just the beginning.

As soon as you book, the friendly staff of Imiloa guides you through all you need to do and know to receive the full benefit of your experience.

Invest in your relationship – enjoy being together in the beauty of Costa Rica.

Join Us at the Hold Me Tight® Couples Retreat

One filled with deeper connection and rekindled passion. Unwind and reconnect with your partner amid the lush beauty of Costa Rica, a perfect setting for rediscovery and love.

The Hold Me Tight® Retreat is not just about mending relationships.

It is about experiencing a deeper bond in a beautiful setting, time for yourself, play, and fun.

Most importantly, it’s about reigniting the love that brought you together.

What past participants said on Google

TThe ‘Hold Me Tight’ workshop allowed my partner and I to hear each other in a new way. We found out vital things about each other previously unknown. The workshop was delivered with care and paced as not to be overwhelming. To be in the presence of other couples was supportive too. There was no pressure to share in a group setting, although there is space for that if we chose to. Highly Recommended!
Kim B
My spouse and I plan to revisit and attend another retreat in a couple of years because we got so much out of it. I am confident that moving forward he and I will have an easier time communicating our needs to one another, listening to the underlying messages, and ultimately caring for and loving each other for many years to come. Thank you Dalia, Owen, and Stephanie for being real, honest, and experts in the field of love and marriage. We are so thankful.
Darby G
After 34 years of being with someone and after failed attempts at marriage counseling, I went into this weekend retreat with apprehension and skepticism.
Dina Marcus
Dalia is a truly wonderful therapist, and working with her as a colleague is such a joy. I refer couples to her often and trust that they are getting the best! She is highly skilled and practiced in Emotionally Focused Therapy, one of the most proven therapy modalities for couples. Check out her Hold Me Tight workshops and anything else she’s offering!
Daniela Di Piero
Without publicly airing our dirty laundry, we learned to listen to each other. Where I’d felt my emotional pain was unheard and unvalidated, I now knew it was. As Dalia, Owen, and Elizabeth encouraged him, my husband began to learn to reveal his internal feelings to me. I felt the longed for connections begin to establish themselves.
Ramona Hill

Booking and Pricing Information

Our pricing includes luxury accommodations, gourmet meals, workshops, a charter flight to and from San Jose Airport to the local airport for Imiloa, and a range of activities.

Meet Your Retreat Leaders

Dalia Anderman, LMFT

Licensed Marriage Family Therapist

For 20 years, Dalia Anderman has thrived as a Marriage and Family Therapist in Northern California. Her profound experience with diverse families and individuals means she’s no stranger to guiding clients from moments of breakdown to powerful breakthroughs.

In particular, Dalia’s transformative journey with Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) over the past 20 years has revolutionized her approach to couples therapy. Having studied extensively with Dr. Sue Johnson, the pioneer of EFT, Dalia has developed an intricate understanding of this attachment-based therapy.

Dalia believes that the core of most relationship challenges isn’t just the fleeting arguments but the deep-seated desperation and longing we feel when our bond with our loved ones gets disrupted. Her adeptness in EFT has empowered numerous couples to navigate hurdles like infidelity and distrust, helping them rediscover intimacy, vulnerability, and fervent desire.

Moreover, she has been at the forefront of the Hold Me Tight® workshop program, facilitating transformative sessions across Israel, South Africa, and the U.S for over half a decade.

While couples therapy is her prime focus, Dalia’s expertise isn’t confined to it. She’s proficient in EMDR, CBT, and Family Systems, adeptly addressing trauma, addiction, parenting challenges, sexual intricacies, life transitions, and more. Her skills are also recognized and sought after at notable events like Burning Man, where she serves on the Mental Health medical team.

Choosing Dalia Anderman means gaining more than just a therapist; you acquire a steadfast ally, keen on navigating you through life’s intricacies, reigniting the spark in relationships, nurturing compassion, and building enduring connections.

Owen Marcus, MA

Co-Founder of MELD

In an era where emotional intelligence often takes a backseat, Owen Marcus emerges as a groundbreaking advocate. With 40 years dedicated to the nuances of mindfulness and emotional physiology, he’s not just knowledgeable but visionary.

Confronting the enduring stereotype of the emotionally reserved male, Owen crafts a fresh narrative. He posits emotional fluency not as a learned trait but as an intrinsic aspect of maleness. His work dives beneath the surface, illuminating the labyrinthine emotional tapestry woven into the very fabric of the male psyche.

His insights are showcased in the documentary About Men. Meanwhile, his book Grow Up: A Man’s Guide to Masculine Emotional Intelligence goes beyond superficial counsel. It serves as a comprehensive guide, paving the way for authentic, deep-rooted connections.

In his role as Co-founder and creator of the EVRYMAN Method and now co-founder of MELD, Owen’s impact resonates beyond individual men. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Men’s Health, GQ, and ABC News. His pioneering Regenerative Relationship system urges us to reconsider vulnerability, framing it not as a frailty but as the bedrock of enduring relationships. His coed trainings authentically connect men and women in ways they didn’t believe possible..

In a society still wrestling with outdated definitions of masculinity, Owen Marcus offers a vital lifeline. It’s not just a call for men to be more emotionally available; it’s a call for everyone to recognize and celebrate emotional complexity as an inherent part of the human experience. It’s a call to connect.

Common Questions for the Hold Me Tight Couple’s Retreat

What about the food?

Meals will be shared and prepared by a team of private chefs with love and a focus on whole, plant-based foods. Please let us know of any dietary concerns so we can accommodate you.

What is included?
  1. Luxury Accommodations: Stay for six days and five nights at the Imiloa Eco-luxury Retreat Center, nestled in the Costa Rica jungle.
  2. Transportation:
    • Roundtrip charter flight from San José (SJO) airport to a nearby small airport.
    • All-inclusive luxury SUV ground transportation to and from the retreat center.
  3. Gourmet Dining: Enjoy plant-based, organic, locally sourced gourmet meals each day, prepared by a master 5-star chef, along with fresh organic juices, coffee, and tea.
  4. Holistic Activities:
    • Yoga classes are taught by local instructors.
    • Access to a private waterfall, miles of nature paths, and an ocean-view infinity pool.
  5. Educational Resources:
    • Engaging presentations and experiential exercises.
    • Video demonstrations from real-life couples.
    • A comprehensive workbook based on the Hold Me Tight® platform, filled with information, guidance, communication, and skill-building exercises.
    • Access to an online resource library.
  6. Personalized Support:
    • Master trainers Owen and Dalia will provide teaching, assistance, and counseling as needed.
    • Post-workshop complimentary follow-up support.
  7. Special Features:
    • Unique excursions and magical surprises.
    • A special celebration on Valentine’s Day, February 14, 2025.
  8. Bonus — free Course
    • As an exclusive benefit for the men attending, we offer a special preparatory program: our MELD Core month-long training. While this particular benefit is designed specifically for men, it undoubtedly enriches the overall retreat experience for everyone involved.
    • Initially developed by Owen a decade ago, this transformative course has evolved significantly over the years. It has been the subject of a recent study published in the APA Journal, underscoring its effectiveness and impact. Enrolling in the MELD Core program will provide a robust foundation, enhancing your insights and engagement during our Hold Me Tight Couples Retreat.
  9. What is not included:
    • Flights to SJO airport in Costa Rica 
    • Travel insurance (optional, but recommended)
    • Spa services
    • Extra day trips and excursions
What are the accommodations?

All couples will have a private room. There are a variety of choices, all beautiful.

Can we extend our stay?

Even though we all want to stay longer at Imiloa, you cannot. 🙁 But we encourage you to stay longer at another property to experience the beauty of Costa Rica and fully enjoy the pleasures of your renewed relationship. The knowledgeable staff of Imiloa will be happy to provide suggestions. Their suggestions to us for one of our visits were excellent.

What do I need to know about payments and cancellations?
  • I understand that I am responsible for full payment 60 days (December 13, 2024) from the start of the HMT retreat. I will be responsible for payment in full immediately after making my 20% deposit. This will be charged to my card on file.
  • A 20% refund can be issued up to 60 days before the start of the HMT Retreat.
  • I grant Dalia Anderman, Owen Marcus, or their representatives the ability to call, email, or text me using the contact details I provided.
  • I understand that chargebacks are not an acceptable way to cancel my purchase and will be contested. I also understand that a default of payment on my purchase is not an acceptable form of cancellation. 
  • We encourage you to seek travel insurance to cover any unexpected issues. We use Allianz. (Not an affiliate)
How many couples will there be?

Our retreats are limited to 15 couples to ensure personalized attention.

Ready to Reignite Your Relationship in Costa Rica?

Request Your Free 30-minute Consultation

We are thrilled that you are considering our Hold Me Tight® Couples Retreat. Please fill out our brief questionnaire to ensure we tailor this consultation to your needs. This will help us make the most out of our 30-minute session together.

After receiving your questionnaire, we will contact you to confirm your consultation time.

We look forward to speaking with you and your partner and exploring how our retreat can help rekindle the passion and strengthen the bond in your relationship.

Remember, this is a free, no-obligation consultation. Let’s embark on this journey of transformation and love together.

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