Hold Me Tight® Workshops

Hold Me Tight® Couples Retreat

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Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshop
Nevada City, California, January 29-30, 2022
We Invite and Welcome all Couples!

Dear readers, colleagues, and friends,

Many of you have been asking and waiting for our Hold Me Tight® couples workshops to reopen. Well, our first is finally here (and in person).

The pandemic has been a long time of uncertainty, fear, isolation, shut down, and other struggles. Many of you have written to us about our Connection in time of Isolation webinar and have shared how helpful it was during the lock down to have new ways to connect and communicate with your partners.

I am excited to announce that Owen Marcus, MA, author, workshop facilitator, co-founder of EVRYMAN, and TEDxTalk presenter on Masculine Emotional Intelligence, will once again be co-leading the workshop with me. (Owen’s TEDX talk: What 10,000 Years Of Progress Has Cost.)

Owen brings with him the width of decades of leading and facilitating men’s group all over the country, helping men access their masculine vulnerability. Owen’s presence, and his work with couples and men, will enhance this upcoming Hold Me Tight workshop. Owen has co-founded, and been intensely involved in EVRYMAN, reaching men all over the world, helping them to access and connect with their deep emotions and vulnerability.

In this Hold Me Tight® couples workshop you will benefit from combining over two decades of my work helping couples to understand and undo the repeated overwhelming negative cycles in their relationships, and Owen Marcus’s decades of understanding, leading, and teaching men how to connect.

Merging the work of adult attachment, researched and modeled in Emotional Focused Therapy, with Owen’s incredible work of helping men to get in touch with themselves and their loved ones allows the potential of deep shifts and lasting change.

This 2-day workshop, gave us more tools and connection then many months of therapy. It allowed my partner and I to open up more directly and deepen our honesty and our intimacy. We were able to witness each other in ways that we didn’t realize were needed or possible. A must for your relationship. Highly recommend.
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Hold Me Tight® Relationship Workshop

Have you been having a hard time in your relationship? Have you felt isolated, lonely, disconnected?

Are you longing for CONNECTION, better communication , romance, and INTIMACY?

BUT instead you:
• Have recurring fights without resolution..
• Lack affection, intimacy or sex..
• Feel alone, lonely, or betrayed..

Do You want to feel more closeness, understanding, and engagement?

Or, are you looking for a beautiful time to enhance your connection and highlight the strengths of your relationship by going deeper and building on the positive foundation that already exist?

This is a great opportunity to have a deeper, intimate, and vulnerable look at your relationship, and develop new emotional, physical, and sexual closeness.

In this workshop you can:

• Forgive old injuries, and heal wounds of abandonment, rejection, and betrayal.
• Access the underlying emotions in the negative cycle you get caught in, over and over.
• Revisit past events that have become unresolved issues, and create change events.
• Talk about sex, intimacy, and what is blocking you from living your full sexual potential.
• Create rituals and talk about how to maintain the breakthroughs of the weekend.

With the workshop’s strong, safe, well designed, and practiced structure, you will be able to open up to your partner and to your relationship. Together you two will explore and understand the barriers to the love, care, intimacy, and sexual sacredness that you once shared and both long for.

What is included in the workshop?

• A workbook full of information, education, guidance, and helpful exercises.
• Engaging presentations, video demonstrations of other real life couples, communication and experiential exercises, and the opportunity for many private exercises and conversations with your partner.
• Owen and Dalia will be available to give you personal time, support, and guidance as needed throughout the weekend.
• An amazing opportunity to take a ‘time-out’ of your rushed life, for your sacred intimacy!!!
• We provide continental breakfast, coffee, fruit, tea and healthy light snacks throughout the day.

What’s not included.
• Lunch is on your own. Please feel free to bring your own snacks and drinks as well (We are located in Grass Valley near cafes, restaurant and delis).
• Accommodation is not included in the cost of the weekend, but some couples find it a unique opportunity to make the weekend into a retreat. There are a lot of sweet unique Airbnb’s and hotels in our beautiful town. We will be happy to share some suggestions with you.

We keep our workshops small to ensure privacy, safety, and personal attention.
Spaces are very limited. Click here for more information and registration

You can also contact me via the direct email link below.
Looking forward to hearing from you,

Dalia

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Walking the walk in darkness

Couples Therapy, Emotional Focused Therapy (EFT), Hold Me Tight® Workshops, Individual Therapy

To My Dearest Readers,

It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.
Antoine de Saint-Exupéry in The Little Prince

This week, I was honored to officiate the marriage of a couple whom I have worked with in my therapy practice. I helped a couple in the midst of a breakdown move to a breakthrough. I sat with a couple who dealt with a relapse after years of sobriety, and I held space for a couple who decided to transform their decades long marriage from a romantic pair bond relationship to one of co-parenting and friendship after a long process of therapy. It was not an easy week, and yet, so deep in my heart, I feel the call, the vision, the hope of connection. (Sometimes my clients say I am a hope junky.)

I would not have been able to do all this amazing work that has me feeling so honored, without coming across the work of Dr. Sue Johnson, and becoming an Emotionally Focused Therapist. Those of you who know my work as a Marriage and Family Therapist, know that when I met Dr. Sue Johnson more than 10 years ago, my professional life changed direction. And honestly, so did my own life. You can not fully separate your life as a psychotherapist from your life as a partner, a mother, a friend, and a community member. With this in mind, it’s up to therapists to walk the talk.

At the time, I was already a seasoned psychotherapist using a mix of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Ericksonian hypnotherapy, EMDR, and quite a few others. However, when it came to couples therapy though, I felt that much more was possible. Couples therapy felt complex, it didn’t play by the same rules, and at times I felt lost.

When I met Dr. Sue Johnson at the Psychotherapy NetWorker professional conferences, I knew I had found an answer to my search about how to be more effective in couples therapy. Following her around the conference and listening to every presentations I could, I felt that for the first time I understood what was behind relationship and how to break the code of what was happening in my therapy office. What Sue calls Cracking the Code of Love became clear in how couples in my therapy practice were going through the dance of relationships, protesting, fighting, longing to be heard, seen, and loved.

After more than a decade of training with Sue Johnson and many others in the field of emotionally focused therapy and attachment therapy, the path to healing for couples feels clear to me.

In her recent blog, A meditation on vulnerability, survival, and comfort when there is no escape, Sue shares her deep vulnerability around her recent medical emergency, and the possibility of loosing her eye sight. Today is her surgery and I am finding myself in gratitude, meditation and prayer, for her recovery and well being. I admire her vulnerability, transparency about her fears, her walk with darkness, and her recognition of the need we all have for connection.

Sue, you have thought me to see my couples, to understand how they get caught in their negative cycle, in their perpetual dance. You have helped so many couples to see each other, to see the panic behind the fight, and to translate their partner’s anger and frustration into the fear of disconnection and the longing to connect.

In her blog, Sue’s shares that although there are many forms of meditation, coping, and other survival skills to deal with trauma, illness, shocks, and loss, the deepest sense and help in times of needs is the loving touch of another.

For me, as an attachment theorist and researcher, all these threads tie into and reflect the most basic biological survival code of all: being with another who is present and loving. To be rocked in the arms of a loved one, to feel a loving hand on your face, to hear a soft voice telling you that you are precious and are not alone. This is what our nervous system longs for; This takes us beyond fear and loss. And maybe this is what poets meant when they’ve said, ‘Love is not everything. It’s the ONLY thing.’

Walking the walk, and not just talking the talk, has at times been a challenge for me as a therapist. Over the years, I’ve heard myself saying things to my kids, partners, or friends, when I hear the voice in my head saying , “did you hear that?” As in, “what if my clients heard me?” In my work, I do not try to be perfect, but I strive as hard as I can to be authentic and real.

It is simpler to know and teach this work. It is when you are seeing yourself get caught in the negative cycle and the dance of fight-flight-blame-shame-shutdown-repeat, that true transformation of oneself as a therapist happens. When you’re really ‘becoming’, and ‘walking your talk’.

When in her blog, Sue Johnson shares the intimacy of her fear in this hard and scary moment and what it is to walk the walk in darkness, we understand how the true sense of intimacy is INTO ME I SEE – INTO ME YOU SEE.

To all of you, my readers, I am sorry for not writing my blog in the consistency I am committed to. We have all had a hard and surreal year, a time no one could have ever predicted, a journey without a map.

Our HOLD ME TIGHT® WORKSHOPS will be resuming soon. I will let you all know ASAP once we know dates, location, and protocol.

I send you much love,

Yours,

~Dalia

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Just what I needed

Couples Therapy, Emotional Focused Therapy (EFT), Hold Me Tight® Workshops, Individual Therapy

A few weeks ago, around the beginning of the year, my iPhone stopped working…

It was the end of a day with many other stresses, but also the end of the year 2020 that was a very difficult and challenging year for all of us. It was also post an election that was tense and had me holding my breath for months, and there was Covid illness in my immediate circle..

As I was trying to connect with AT&T, from my only phone.. (that was not working…), I was put on a very long hold. As with many of those tech companies, after a long hold, I was sent to a out-sourced call center in another country. When finally, a real human female voice came on with a warm, soft accent and said, “how can I help you..,” I burst into tears.

Through my tears, I tried to reassure her that I was not in danger or crisis, and that I was quite OK. It was actually her “how can I help you..” that broke me down and opened the flood gates.

We talked for a while, and while she could not disclose to me where she was located geographically (company protocol), she was so kind, and sweet, and understanding, and held such quiet, calm, and patience with my overwhelm.

When she needed to put me on hold (many times), she reassured me that she ‘will be right back!!’

She was just what I needed!! A warm caring person to listen to me with patience, empathy, understanding, and a soft voice with a good dose of competence and humor.

The fact that she also helped me solve a technology issue with my iPhone (and wow .. do I DEPEND on this device) was secondary.

Needless to say that my attitude toward my “mental health professional” work took a bit of a turn that moment while also becoming part of my New Year resolution.

The women from the call center understood that while she was trying to resolve a technical issue, my stress and overwhelm were what was really the issue.

Every year at the beginning of January, I write a blog about making New Years resolutions.

That feeling of having a blank slate, a canvas on which we can sketch how we want our lives to look this next year and define what is really important to us; That feeling is a sense of reset and a beginning again that opens up a land of possibilities to imagine what we desire to improve and accomplish in our lives.

When I look at my 2020 blog, it seems ever so long ago, and so naive and innocent.

For most of us, hindsight is 20/20, we can look back and see what we did not see, we can have clarity where we were not paying attention, and we wish that we knew then, what we know now..(from my 2020 January blog.)

However, hindsight isn’t so 20/20 looking at this last year as no one could have predicted the unimaginable events of 2020. The worst pandemic, the country divided, racial injustice and protests, a surreal election, and a time that felt like being in a small boat in a tumultuous ocean without a rudder or a captain.

Like walking in a labyrinth, I felt I needed to focus and trust where I put my next step, without looking too far ahead.

As I move into this next year I am confronted by the same forces of the unknown that have been there for all of us this year. As I envision this year that is ahead of us, I try to put my intentions forth, with as much trust as I can. Much is still unknown.

What am I willing to let go of and release from my life this last year: fear, mistrust, contraction, division, criticism, anger, impatience.

What I want to call in and welcome; trust, expansion, breath, curiosity, intimacy, (travel!).

What about you? What are the things you want to embrace, attract, and bring into your life this year of 2021, and what stuff are you willing to let go of and be done with?

This last year has been a hard year for my therapy work. Though I am so full with gratitude for having my work and for being able to help my clients every day, it is also hard to hold space for so much hardship and turmoil that often leave us feeling a sense of helplessness.

As most of my work is relationship therapy, I help couples and individuals deal with ‘connection in time of isolation‘, coping with overwhelm, anxiety, and at times depression and hopelessness. As a couple told me tonight, ‘we are aching and longing for some sense of normalcy’.

As I enter my therapy sessions, I want to bring with me the voice of the woman from the call center. I want to hear in my head, and project outward, her warm, caring, compassionate voice, and be able to say, “How can I help you?” And by holding that space, I hope to impact my clients in such a way that at the end of our calls, they feel that same sense of “that was Just what I needed!!!“

Please take good care and have a good 2021.

With much love,

Dalia

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Grieving, Loss, and All that we took for granted

Couples Therapy, Emotional Focused Therapy (EFT), Hold Me Tight® Workshops, Individual Therapy

Dear Friends,

Sorry for being MIA….This post has taken a long time to write. Every time I sit down to write to you, something bigger happens, and becomes more important to write about.

We have gone through so much this year, from Covid-19 pandemic, political strife and upheaval, demonstrations, Black Lives Matter, fires and evacuations, to everything in between. It has not stopped.

Thanks to all of you who have reached out and checked in about our evacuation. I am back home and safe, and our little town is OK although California is still suffering intense fires. We are only at the beginning of fire season and fall is when most of the big fires have happened in the past. THANK YOU FIREFIGHTERS who risk your lives to save our homes.

Those of you who know me are aware that every year, on the week leading up to Labor Day, (this week!), I make a pilgrimage to the Black Rock Desert in Nevada to partake in the Burning Man festival event.

Burning Man is a temporary city of 80K + participants, based on principles of inclusion, self reliance, sharing and gift economics, radical and free self expression, community building, and so much more culminating with a ‘burning of the man installation’, and the burning of the Temple at the closing of the week.

Over the years of participating in Burning Man as a spectator and a guest, I found my own way to contribute to this amazing event. I now go every year as part of the Mental Health Branch (CIT- Critical Incident Team) of the Emergency Service Department (ESD). They call us ‘psychs on bikes’. We provide mental health services to deal with anything from home sickness and drug overdose to sexual assault and domestic violence.

But every year, I also, hesitate about going. Burning Man is hard on me. Between the heat, the dust, the noise, the overwhelm, and yes, at time the loneliness, I take my time to decide about joining my team. Although, every year I end up with a resounding yes…

And then came 2020, and we cancelled the event. Like so so many special events this year, Burning Man got cancelled due to Covid-19, and not wanting to put so many at risk.

It was no longer a decision I got to make…

Like so many of the happenings and not happenings of this year, that which we all took for granted… travelings.. weddings.. seeing family.. seeing friends.. eating out…hugs, are all no longer an option.

Of course we all adjusted and became creative. Here in the small town where I live in Northern CA, streets became pedestrian streets, tables and planter and umbrellas and hey stacks became the new look of summer evenings. (And I actually really like it).

My practice moved online. At first seeing clients on Zoom was strange. I miss the presence of my clients sitting right across from me having the ability to read body language and the energy in the room. But like so many other adjustments, it became normal, and I was able to continue helping my clients.

How naive was I when I wrote my January blog… Can the New Year be 2020?

For most of us, hindsight is 2020, we can look back and see what we did not see, we can have clarity where we were not paying attention, and we wish that we knew then, what we know now..

For most of us, what we are feeling right now is a lot of confusion, frustration, fear, sadness, and grief. There is a lot of grief around losing the lives we lived before Covid and all those things we have taken for granted.

In a touching interview and testimonial of Kessler, the world’s foremost expert on grief, ‘The Discomfort You’re Feeling Is Grief’ , by Scott Berinato he quotes:

Yes, and we’re feeling a number of different griefs. We feel the world has changed, and it has. We know this is temporary, but it doesn’t feel that way, and we realize things will be different. Just as going to the airport is forever different from how it was before 9/11, things will change and this is the point at which they changed. The loss of normalcy; the fear of economic toll; the loss of connection. This is hitting us and we’re grieving. Collectively. We are not used to this kind of collective grief in the air.

In our discomfort, we are looking for meaning.

Viktor Frankl, M.D Ph.D. was an Austrian neurologist, psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor. He came out of the most difficult situatio, surviving the holocaust while losing his entire family, and wrote about the meaning of life.

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. Viktor Frankl.

In her book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone Lori Gottlieb, write

We tend to think that the future happens later, but we’re creating it in our minds every day. When the present falls apart, so does the future we had associated with it. And having the future taken away is the mother of all plot twists.

One of the hardest punishments in prisons, is solitary confinement. Being disconnected from human connection is coded in our brain as danger. In my blog ‘A Tribe of Two – Connection in Time of Isolation’ I wrote:

We have all been encouraged to ‘socially distance’ so we can reduce the spread of the Corona Virus. However, being alone is Interpreted in our mammalian brain as ‘Danger’, and Being Connected is Interpreted as ‘Safe’..

When we are disconnected from our family, friends, tribe, coworkers, we may develop ‘Social atrophy’ , and our emotional muscle memory can become numb or frozen.

I invite you to share your own story of these tough times, and the ways you have coped and survived, and also how you became creative and even found meaning.

One day it will all be behind us. One day it will be an intense story to tell. Let’s remind each other that we are in this TOGETHER.

Be well, stay safe, and keep in touch

Virtual Hugs and Love,

~Dalia

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Do I Matter?

Couples Therapy, Emotional Focused Therapy (EFT), Hold Me Tight® Workshops, Individual Therapy

Dearest Reader

When Covid-19 hit our world, the message was ‘stay home’, ‘shelter in place’ and ‘social distance,’ unless you are an essential worker or business.

I was one of those lucky ones.

In response to increasing current public health concerns regarding the spread of the COVID-19 virus, I was able to transfer my psychotherapy practice to online tele-therapy, offering online Zoom sessions.

My work not only mattered, and was essential, but became even more essential as time went on. As more and more people were socially isolating, as people lost jobs and financial security while also being disconnected from their support systems of family and friends, depression, loneliness, domestic violence, anxiety , and other mental health issues were rising to staggering numbers. The need for Connection in Time of Isolation became acute.

During this time though, many found themselves as ‘unessential workers‘. The feelings that follow were of being ‘unessential’ ,and that our work did not matter, which can then turn into insecurity, fear, anger, helplessness and hopelessness. For so many it quickly became a financial and survival crisis.

Yes, I was lucky, and I was grateful, and still very much am. But I also felt very sad, and heart broken seeing clients, friends, colleagues, and so many others, who found themselves ‘unessential’, and unemployed’ Did their work, shops, services, crafts, and arts not matter any more? Did they not matter? Did they have a sense of purpose? Do I matter is a question that goes to the core of our being.

When we experience doubt asking ‘Do I Matter?’, it can deflate and question our sense of self, safety, and meaningfulness. We need purpose to survive.

The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

I started to write this blog few weeks ago, not knowing what was ahead. Suddenly, it became more relevant, wider, more acute, and a lot more painful after George Floyd died from police brutality, and protests exploded all over the US and around the globe.

Yes of course ‘all lives matter’, but NOW what is in front of us is that Black Lives Matter. After decades of police brutality and of people of color being marginalized, this is a call for action. A call to address the bigger issues of systemic racism, oppression, and discrimination. And at the core, the issue of not mattering is costing lives of so many.

In a touching and powerful address, following the murder of George Floyd, former president Barack Obama addresses the issue:
How to Make this Moment the Turning Point for Real Change

So the bottom line is this: if we want to bring about real change, then the choice isn’t between protest and politics. We have to do both. We have to mobilize to raise awareness, and we have to organize and cast our ballots to make sure that we elect candidates who will act on reform.

And even beyond making changes to our societies systems, this is a call to ask what matters to each of us. Many feel helpless in trying to make societal change happen, and yet the most powerful change is within ourselves and how we relate to others. How do we express what really matters to us.

In the movie Freedom Writers, a dedicated teacher in a racially divided Los Angeles school has a class of at-risk teenagers deemed incapable of learning. Instead of giving up, she inspires her students to take an interest in their education and planning their future. Based on a true story, the teacher, Erin Gruwell, is determined to inspire and help her students believe and understand that they matter, their lives matter, and that they can make an impact to change their life.

When we feel and experience that we do not matter, that our life has no value or purpose, our ability to survive and thrive is questioned. Lots has been written and shared about what we can do to change the current situation.

A therapist colleague shared these words from Dr Franklin D. Gilliam, Jr., Chancellor of UNCG, which he sent in a memo to students, faculty and staff, “This is personal. I am a black man. I have a black son….How do we fix this? One answer is that this is all about “public will.” That’s the collective sense of people coming together with a good heart and common sense to solve problems….But are we willing? Are we willing to buy into the notion that we have a “shared fate” regardless of race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, or party affiliation? Are people willing to change how institutions work in this country so that all people are treated fairly? “

Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere. We are caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied in a single garment of destiny. Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly.
Martin Luther King Jr.

The essential question of ‘Do I matter?’ is also in the core of our romantic relationships. When we feel that we are disconnected in our relationship, we may experience the panic that we do not matter to our partner. When the survival of the relationship is at stake, we may get into our Fight-Freeze-Flight response. We may shout, scream, go quiet, numb, leave… anything we can do to know that we matter. What may look like a fight can be a Protest for Connection.

When couples sit with me in my therapy office, I read on each one of their face that burning question, Do I matter to you? Would you come when I call?

We long, and we need, and we yearn, to matter in our relationships.

In the movie ‘Shall We Dance’, Susan Sarandon speaks about why people get married.

But in a marriage, you’re promising to care about everything–the good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things–all of it, all the time, every day. You’re saying, ‘Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness.

In our Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshop, in a safe, intimate, private setting, we hold space for couples to be able to share that question, and to become vulnerable and open to explore, experience, touch and talk through issues that have been keeping us apart and disconnected. It is time set aside to have these conversations that have been waiting for a long time to happen.

Couples get to renew trust and intimacy within their connection. They experience a new depth of emotional connection and closeness with one another and learn to create a secure base for both people to flourish.

We do not yet have a date for our next Hold Me Tight® couples workshop. As soon as our Shelter in Place situation is changed, Owen Marcus and I will create few dates for our workshops and we will notify you ASAP.

The first half of 2020 has been challenging, surreal, filled with the unknown and scary. It has also been a testimonial to our human life force, resilience, surrender, and hope.

Wishing you all to be safe, well, and keep your hearts open.

Much love.

Dalia

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Deal Breaker or Game Changer?

Couples Therapy, Emotional Focused Therapy (EFT), Hold Me Tight® Workshops, Individual Therapy

Dear friends,

How are YOU doing? Really!! Not in the way we say it without really expecting an answer. It is SO important to check-in with your tribe, family, people, and loved ones. We are all in this together. So if you want, please send me an email and tell me how you are doing. I respond to all my mail!!

One day it will all be a story to tell. But for now, we are still in the midst of the most surreal times that I remember in my life. Growing up in Israel, I experienced many wars, with dangerous, uncertain, and scary times, however since the Covid19 pandemic, I have been feeling all of that and so much more.

We are all trying to “sheltering in place” as best we can, while also working, exercising, supporting our local economy, and caring for loved ones.

Some parts of the world are slowly opening up while taking careful measures, lifting some of the restrictions on movement and socializing while paying attention to maintaining safety and care. We hold our breath as we go back to “normal”.

I love this quote by Sonya Renee Taylor about “not going back to normal“..as “Normal never was.”

During these Covid19 times I have been extremely busy with tele-health online therapy. At first I was not sure how to move from seeing clients in the intimacy of my office to sitting with them on the other side of a computer screen. But surprisingly, I was able to transition fairly well and get a handle on the technology that was at first intimidating and strange.

I was grateful that I was able to help clients work through this period of isolation, anxiety, fear and the scary unknown.

Most of us, have been needing to adjust to a new reality. Many are struggling with a lot of stress. The loss of jobs, economic uncertainty, health issues, and not being able to be with or care for family member have put a strain on all of us.

Few years ago I wrote a blog about infidelity titled Infidelity – a Deal Breaker – or – a Game Changer?, in the blog I wrote about my experience with couples dealing with losing the trust bond in a relationship due to affairs and infidelity. As a couples therapist, I have sat with many couples while they dealt with affairs and watched how they straggled to coped and how they changed. At times I was able to witness how they transformed the situation from a possible deal breaker of separation and divorce, to a game changer of showing up in their relationship in a new way that may have seemed impossible.

While there is much pain and vulnerability following an affair or breach of trust, some couples are able to look at what happened, see what was missing in the relationship, and at times understand what happened for the partner who had the affair that took them out of the relationship.

Healing from infidelity is a long and painful road. But as a ‘hope junkie’ (that is how I see myself at times), I feel that there is a potential for a Phoenix to rise out of the ashes‘. We can use the most adverse situation to guide us to changes we may have not seen coming.

What is becoming more obvious to me in the many years I have been working in therapy with individuals and couples is that if it is not a deal breaker, it is a game changer. This is not only with infidelity and affairs, but with so many other issues as well.

We are invited to see the potential of change that can come through the most adverse situation. Even with the current Covid19 crisis, there may be a way to see how slowing down, staying close to home, pets, kids, gardens, and especially time with ourselves can reveal a landscape we did not imagine.

I have a request from you, but only if you are incline to do so:

As my new website, DaliaAnderman.com, is gaining it’s own life momentum, I was told by my tech team that having reviews and testimonials is an important and integral part of the success of the new website.

If my work as a therapist has impacted you in a positive way and made a difference in your life, or if you have participated in our Hold Me Tight® workshops and it helped your relationship, or if you want to share your experience so others may gain from the same experience, consider writing a reviews and testimonials on one of the below platforms:

My pages on: Facebook | Google | Yelp

Some of you who participated in our webinar Connection in Time of Isolation, with Owen Marcus and myself, got to experience a taste of the powerful work we offer to couples in our workshops. Your overwhelming responses and appreciation were sincerely heart warming.

Many of you have asked when we will be offering our next non-virtual Hold Me Tight® Couples Workshop. Soon, we hope!

We are in touch with our hosting hotel in Grass Valley to secure a future date, and we are carefully monitoring health guidelines for safety.

To all of you, sending hugs and love,

Dalia

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Nevada City, California, January 29-30, 2022
We Invite and Welcome all Couples!